There is a very clear line between being real and being negative. Being real is based in truth. Being negative is based on choice. I would like to request that you share your thoughts and experiences with negativity vs. realness in your relationships and yourself. Thank you and enjoy this forum!
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I think negativity oftentimes feels easier and safer. It's easier to accuse, "big chains like Wal-Mart are horrible monsters who are killing independently-owned local businesses", than reach into your heart and notice, "wow, something about the whole big-chain thing feels off-balance...I wonder...what are some places in my life that support imbalances like this...i wonder...what is it I'm truly yearning for here?" It's also safer to be negative because when you're in a negative place, the usual perspective is that it's somebody else's fault or something is being done to you- therefore safer because you are not on the hot seat to make the changes. Of course, you can't just gloss over feeling angry about something, but choosing negativity as a place to live seems like an abandonment of personal power and choosing a vicim role instead. And of course, that's not really the Real You now, is it??!!
This sounds like a case of optimism vs pessimism. If you go into a relationship thinking it is not going to work, chances are it won't. Negativity just brings around more negativity....
In terms of being real vs. being negative within a relationship??
Being real is being real. As in, speaking the truth with no agenda attached to it.
Being negative has venom behind it.
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